Was it one series too many for After Life? A review

A blog that argues that the black comedy After Life, should have ended in its prime after series 2.

Disappointing third series

Having just finished watching the third series of After Life by Ricky Gervais, I am left feeling somewhat disappointed. The third series dragged, was a bit corny, and it sort of ran out of puff. This is in contrast to the first two series that were exceptional.

TV bucket list

Watching the After Life has always been on my bucket list of TV shows to see. This is because I have read loads people rave about it on my social media for years. I also reckon you could class me as a definite fan of Ricky Gervais and his previous work.

Grief

That said, I guess I have avoided After Life a bit because at its heart I knew it was about dealing with grief. I lost my dad when I was 21, so I wondered if it would stir up painful emotions for me that had been locked away somewhere. Therefore, I kind of stumbled upon watching it, but am pleased that I did.

Immediate impression

My immediate impression of the first few episodes of After Life, was that this was TV show of great quality. Gervais plays the role of Tony Johnson, a head of features journalist for a local newspaper. We find him totally engulfed by depression and grief, after recently losing his beloved wife Lisa (Kerry Godliman), to breast cancer. We get to know Lisa by seeing her in a series of flashbacks and via Tony’s home videos.

Emotive

Gervais needs applauding for both his poignant writing and acting. I think I was reduced to tears almost every episode of the first two series. This mixed in with the regular moments of humour too, I was pleased I had finally decided to embrace it.

Ray’s dementia

As the episodes progressed, I began to care more not just about Tony, but also the rest of the characters too. A special mention needs to go to the sublime actor David Bradley, who plays Tony’s dad, Ray. Ray has severe dementia and regularly asks Tony how Lisa is doing? This struck a deep chord with me because my late gran had severe dementia and would regularly ask my mum how Harold was (my mum’s recently deceased husband, and my dad).

Great acting

Penelope Wilton’s performance of wise old Anne (a grieving widow) needs praising. Penelope and Ricky share a great onscreen chemistry in every scene they do together. I also thought Tony’s boss at work and brother-in-law, Matt (Tom Basden), was well acted as the funny wimp (albeit I thought this character had slight undertones of Alan Partridge).

Gripping

The postman Pat character (Joe Wilkinson) is funny, Tony’s friendship with the Gazette’s photographer Lenny (Tony Way) is both endearing and amusing, and his ‘will they or won’t they’ storyline with nurse Emma (Ashley Jensen), was immensely gripping because I willed Tony to find happiness again.

Almost faultless

By the end of series 2 I was loving it all. The show had not really put a foot wrong. At the end, we even got a much needed resolution of sorts to the Tony and Emma romance storyline.

Ran out of steam

The problem with series 3 is that it ran out of steam, and we had seen it all before at this stage. Tony still watching videos of Lisa began to grate on me, as well as his all-consuming sadness. The lewd jokes from irritating Brian (David Earl), who reminded me of an unfunny version of Jim from Friday Night Dinner started to irritate me, and the other male sex humour jokes just lacked originality.

Missing characters

The third series also missed two important characters in the shape of endearing journalist Sandy (Mandeep Dhillon), and sex worker Roxy (Roisin Conaty). I missed watching Roxy regularly go round to Tony’s for a caring and often amusing chitchat.

The power of animals

As stated, the first two series were great, and any show that deals with the challenging subjects of grief, suicide, and dementia, needs to be applauded. It also shined a much needed light on the unique way animals (in this case a dog), can help humans cope with severe tragedy and sadness in life.

Boring

However, good storylines were just a bit thinner on the ground and less gripping in the third series. I found myself watching it now more out of habit, than out of enjoyment. Fundamentally, the storylines had become boring and the jokes not funny anymore.

Conclusion

Definitely still worth a watch regardless of my latter criticisms of it. I would just stop watching it at the end of series 2 though. Afterall, we all want to be remembered when we are in our prime, don’t we?

4/5.

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My first ever OCD talk at Staffordshire University, what a rewarding day

One of the best days of my life

It is not hyperbole to state that May 15th, 2025, was one of the best days of my life so far. This was the day I gave my first ever OCD talk at Staffordshire University, to a class of 20-odd trainees doing a Post Graduate Diploma in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. I was extremely nervous because I wanted it to go so well, I wanted to repay the faith shown in me by others.

Midlands Partnership University NHS Foundation Trust

In my previous blog entitled, ‘A brave new world as a lived experience expert at Keele and Staffordshire Universities’, I detail how I got my new role as an OCD lived experience expert. Midlands Partnership University NHS Foundation Trust are my new employer I am very proud to say. Indeed, getting this role is testament to how far I have come in terms of my OCD recovery journey.

My story

My OCD story is a harrowing one that involved suicidal thoughts and self-harm. I developed contamination OCD when I was around 14-15 years old, but things did not massively improve until I reached my 44th year. I do not pretend to now know everything, but I know my past and hope lessons can be learnt.

Ever the perfectionist

Back to May 15th, 2025, and I was stood outside Staffordshire Railway Station feeling the pressure internally. Not once did I feel any pressure from Course Clinical Lead, Psychologist Alex Preston, I hasten to add. Alex was so supportive and encouraging towards me. I just knew myself I had an important story to tell the Staffordshire University cohorts, and so I wanted to do it justice.

Nervous but excited

I am not a natural public speaker, so naturally I found the prospect of doing my OCD talk rather scary. In fact, I think my last big presentation was back in the early 2000s at university when talking about the rights and wrongs of that Hollywood classic film Casablanca (between us I can still do a great Humphrey Bogart impression). I was nervous but excited though (back to my OCD speech), it was time to prove my worth.

Everybody was willing me on

I guess the loveliest thing I can say about the Stafford University trainees, is that as I started my talk, I got this heartwarming sense that everybody in the room was willing me on. My talk in total lasted for about 30 minutes, and then afterwards I did a question and answer session with them. Their reaction to me and my story could not have gone any better.

Making a difference

I know this may sound really big-headed of me, but I am now immensely proud to be an OCD lived experience expert employed by my employers. The feedback from both Alex and the trainees, was that my presence had made a positive learning difference to them all.

Rewarding

As I landed back in Manchester later that afternoon, I was still buzzing at how well the talk had gone. Most of all though I was overcome almost by this overwhelming feeling of gratitude. What I mean by this is that by helping the trainees like I had, the day had been so rewarding for me.

Become a mental health lived experience expert

If you have experience of a mental health condition/s, then I urge you to think about becoming a lived experience expert too. Afterall, would you not agree with me that there really is no finer feeling in life than when you help other people?

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A brave new world as a lived experience expert at Keele and Staffordshire Universities

A new lived experience expert

Monday, March 10th, 2025, a day that will be etched in my memory till the end of my days. You see, this was my first day working in the field of mental health, namely as a new lived experience expert at Keele University. It was some turnaround bearing in mind 15-20 years ago I could barely go out of my house.

My OCD past

I got diagnosed with severe OCD aged 17 but started with it from around the age of 14-15 years old. It was contamination OCD, having a fear of poo, urine, and vomit. It took me 31 years later to truly break free from the shackles of this debilitating condition.

Blogging

To be honest, at times writing has felt like the only thing I am really good at. Through the years I have documented my OCD suffering via my blog. I quickly discovered that it felt really therapeutic to detail my highs and lows.

Positive feedback

My OCD blogs have had some amazing feedback. Around September time last year, I posted a blog about me going to Whitby for a short family break. It was my first holiday in 30 years due to the previous crippling nature of my OCD.

Dr Sarah Watts

On the back of reading some of my OCD blogs, Dr Sarah Watts, who is Course Clinical Director to both the Keele and Staffordshire Post Graduate Diplomas in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, reached out to me online about me becoming an OCD lived expert for them. It would involve me talking to trainee therapists about what it was once like to suffer with severe OCD. I was very flattered and honoured to have been asked, so I duly said yes.

Midlands Partnership University NHS Foundation Trust

So, my new employer would be Midlands Partnership University NHS Foundation Trust. I was so chuffed as well as excited at the prospect of potentially helping future therapists out there. I know this may sound a bit corny, but I told Sarah that I just wanted to help in any way that I could.

My first day

As I said at the start, my first day at Keele University was March 10th. I was picked up at the station and looked after by the Course Clinical Lead, Psychologist Alex Preston. The day was going to involve me taking part in roleplays with the trainees, a nice way of introducing myself to them.

Nervous

Bearing in mind my last public speaking performance was a long time ago when I went university, I was incredibly nervous. I wanted to do both Sarah and Alex proud though, make a difference to the students, and also do myself proud too.

Roleplays

The roleplays were based on a patient suffering from mild depression, meeting their new therapist. I played the role of the patient. They went better than I could ever have hoped for, the trainees were amazing.

Why they do this

The two courses involve lived experts like me because we enrich the teaching and learning process. What better way to learn than to actually hear from people who have actually had the condition.

Rewarding

As I arrived back in my hometown of Manchester that evening, the whole day had felt like such a rewarding experience. It felt so great to be contributing to something so meaningful. It made me feel good about myself and that finally some good had come out of all my harrowing years of suffering.

Become a mental health lived expert

Have you ever thought about becoming a mental health lived expert? If I can do it with all my insecurities and anxieties bubbling away in the background, then I am sure you can too. Why not contact your local NHS mental health team and see if you could do what I am doing.

A brave new world

As outlined in the above I really ended up liking my brave new world. Good job too because next on my agenda on May 15th, 2025, was my first ever OCD talk at Staffordshire University. Time to prove my mettle once again I thought, another opportunity at trying to make a difference to our beloved NHS.

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Finally cracking my hellish pelvic pain case, with exercises and pelvic floor relaxation

Just as I was starting to think my old chronic pelvic pain problem was a thing I needed to completely forget about, wham, it came back and hit me where it hurts last December time.

Step forward my specialist pelvic floor physiotherapist Helen Shepherd. This wonderful medical professional has given me hope like I have never had before. I am too scared to say this out loud just quite yet, but I think I could be well on my way now to being cured.

As well as internally examining me to help release my tight my pelvic floor muscles, the penny has finally dropped with me that I need to take ownership of this condition myself. I am duly doing my exercises to strengthen the pelvic region. Furthermore, I am now learning to breathe properly and relax my pelvic area for the first time in my life.

I have always been an anxious person and this I now realise has manifested itself in my body. By this, I mean how I breathe and carry myself. I believe my pelvic floor muscles have been in fight-or-flight mode for the past 35 years or more.

By doing the exercises and trying to consciously relax my pelvic floor muscles, less pain has started to emerge. This as a result is making me feel more positive about my life and future.

I urge you to become super aware of any tension in the body, because who knows, it might just help unlock a brighter future for your life too.

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Super Starsailor, meant an OCD triumph

Just over a decade ago, I no longer wanted to be here due to my severe contamination OCD. Fast-forward to Saturday, 15 February 2025, where I saw Starsailor at The Tung Auditorium in Liverpool. It’s proof at how far I have come in terms of my OCD recovery.

Motivation remains the key for me. I wanted to go and see one of my favourite bands in a city I love.

I was moved to tears listening to ‘Love is Here’, a state of emotional bliss. Let’s share our success stories and give others hope.

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My OCD has improved so much, but how do I get over my health anxiety?

Last Tuesday, for once in my life I received good health news. My sore fingers are just chilblains the doctor said. What if he is wrong though, because they have been in the past?   

My health record

  • Type 1 diabetes
  • OCD
  • Prostatitis
  • Spondylolisthesis
  • Lymphoedema
  • Chronic Pelvic Pain
  • Sinus surgery
  • Gallbladder surgery
  • Hernia surgery
  • Sciatica

I am scared to believe in my good health news, because my past has traumatised me so much.  How do I stop being traumatised? Good things do happen to good people like me though, right?

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Thankful Thursday, fascinating Friday, and troublesome Tuesday

This is going to be a short piece of audio where I give you a life update regarding my chronic pelvic pain situation, some mental health work I will be doing soon, and me being nervous about a medical appointment I have next Tuesday.

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How do I find a woman to date, being a white British man of 48?

Finally admitting to the world, I hate being a straight, single, middle-aged man, living in Britain.

‘I am going to fall in love this year.’ This has been my same New Year’s resolution for the past 20 years or more, can you believe? At one point I almost gave up, but I am a good guy and know I deserve to find happiness.

Ill health

So, why am I still single you may ask? It is because in my early 20s to my early 40s, I was seriously ill. I had 2 invisible, debilitating illnesses called OCD and Chronic Bacterial Prostatitis.

Missed my chance

I am better now from my ill health. I am 48, ready to date, but my situation is starting to irritate. How do I meet a beautiful woman when my clubbing days are over, I work from home, and now lack the self-confidence to ever go out and do my best Sir Tom Jones impression?

Online dating

I have tried popular online dating websites without any luck. Let me now vent about my online dating experiences.

  • Fake profiles
  • Unoriginal profiles (women sticking their tongue out)
  • Hardly get any replies
  • Stop writing on your profiles, ‘ask me anything?’

Comfort zone

I could join the local rambling club or chess society. Problem is neither of these things are really me.

My last line maybe gives me my answer though. I need to step out of my comfort zone more.

Let us share

Would love to hear from you if you are in a similar life situation as me? Or perhaps, you have just met somebody after years of being single? Let us offer each other hope and support, because everybody needs love, right?

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Have you heard the news today? My type 1 diabetes is A-OK

A blog that celebrates my great self-care of my type 1 diabetes.

Unexpected news

‘I am ringing-up about your diabetes’, said my diabetic nurse to me at around 10.30am today. I took a big gulp and braced myself for the worst. The worst did not happen though because her next words were, ‘your average has come down to 58, you’re doing really well.’

No longer feel like a prisoner

I felt absolutely elated hearing these kind words. Diagnosed at 17 years old, now 48, it is the first time ever a medical professional has congratulated me about it. A breakthrough moment as living with type 1 diabetes at times, has felt like being a prisoner with no release date in sight. 

Freestyle Libre 2 Sensor

Without a doubt, my better diabetes control is down to me recently using the Freestyle Libre 2 Sensor. It is where your mobile phone alerts you to your levels going too low or too high. They are free to use in the UK, so another reason to salute the NHS.

Let us come together and support one another, there is a way forward.

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Can Bob Mortimer, be as funny at writing novels as he is on TV? You bet

By releasing his recent bestselling novels, The Satsuma Complex and The Hotel Avocado, Bob Mortimer, has become a complete British national treasure.

Those of you wondering if TV comic royalty Bob Mortimer, might not be able to master writing comedy fiction need not worry. His stories are pure reading joy.

They feature a wimpy but funny central character called Gary, a talking squirrel, and lots of dramatic narrative tension.

Please share with me your thoughts on these two novels. They are not perfect, but pretty close.

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